Happiness And Love Are Closely Intertwined
Some people are always smiling and seemingly happy whilst others seem to struggle their way through life. After a few decades of hard slog combined with much good fortune and a fair drizzle of mishaps I think I got a little bit more of a handle on ‘it.’
Happiness and love are closely intertwined in that firstly it is never between you and ‘them’ but always between you and your Creator. Don’t worry about ‘them’, worry about your soul and your spirit being right with your God.
And secondly happiness is similar to love in that the perks and rewards are bundled in with the giving and not with the receiving.
My little ditty on happiness
This may not be a great eye opener to anyone but it inspired me to write the following little ditty on happiness.
Happiness quotes and the science of happiness
Check out these 101 happiness quotes compiled by Henrik Edberg and the Surprising Science of Happiness by Dan Gilbert on TED with more than 9 million views so far plus another nine inspiring talks on TED about What makes us happy?
Happiness is equal to or greater than the events of your life minus your expectation of how life should be.
Mo Gawdat says that Happiness is equal to or greater than the events of your life minus your expectation of how life should be. He elaborates on this in “Solve for Happy: Engineering Your Path to Uncovering the Joy Inside You” by Mo Gawdat.
Despite acknowledging your happy list, the reason we are then often unhappy is because we are trained to look at the events of our life in a way that is not truthful leading Gawdat to determine the ‘675 model’.
The model states that there are six illusions that blur our view of the real world: thought (believing you are your thoughts), self (believing you are your body, emotions, beliefs, name, achievements, family or possessions), knowledge, time (thinking too much about the past or future), control and fear.
Next, there are seven blind spots that make us miss the truth when we look at life: filtering, assuming, hunting, memories, labels, emotion and exaggerating. When we factor this into the equation, this is often how we see life events therefore blurring what those events actually mean.
“Fixing the six and the seven gets you to remove the reasons for your unhappiness,” he explains. “When you do that long enough, you start to realise it is silly because life mostly meets our expectations.”
Finally, there are five truths which we must accept: that now , change, love and death are all real as is the last truth: grand design, the belief that nothing is random and life generally follows patterns, laws, rules or science.
By considering the five truths, even if life events are harsh, they are not unexpected because they are simply the truths of life.
“When you focus on these five truths, you feel happy most of the time,” Gawdat says.
You can purchase Mo’s Book on Amazon.
Jimmy created a website filled with resources to help people get happier. He also created a mathematical formula as follows,
Jimmy calls this the Happiness Formula. His site has all sorts of goodies such as “Happiness Builder Strategies” to create your happiest possible life!
Happiness is a choice.
At each moment of the day, you make a decision, whether you realize it or not. It’s the result of your attitude towards life. And whatever it is—positive or negative—it affects all the events, people, relationships, and basically whatever it is that you encounter in your life.
So, if you’re living a complicated life with so many things to do and no time for yourself, it’s your fault.
If you have exactly what you’ve wanted and are thankful for it every day, you’re the one to blame.
If you’re surrounded by negative people, have a job you hate and can’t even sleep at night because of the many thoughts that pop up in your head constantly, no one else is responsible for that but you.
If you’re doing what you love, work hard but still find time for yourself and those you love, it’s due to a choice you’ve made at some point.
But there’s good news. Whatever your situation is, you can change it.
Happiness is absolutely possible at any time, it’s free, doesn’t depend on age, looks, career or income. Everyone deserves it and it doesn’t need to be found, reached, created, or anything else that requires effort.
To read more about Life Hacker’s Happiness Formula you can visit their website.
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